Monday, January 2, 2006

Opgave voor ons beiden: liefde en respect!—Task for both of us: love and respect!

January 2, 2006

In the human sciences (psychology), one of the main rules for resolving a dispute is suggested to be the following:
When someone who means something to you starts to tell you all kinds of weaknesses, or reproach you, a human reaction is to hold up the mirror to the other party in order to demonstrate his/her weaknesses (which of course are also there). This usually won't solve anything but the positions only harden. 
So here are a few rules: 
1) I still love you dearly.
2) I will therefore do my best to give up my weaknesses, without asking for anything in return.
3) I'm by no means the boss!
4) Task for both of us: love and respect!
Your Pieter
Monday, January 02, 2006 Both of us write a note to each other, vowing to do our best for the coming year!
Pieter on January 8, 2006 with our Spooky boy in front of Infiniti

Pieter's grades for Psychology, Pedagogy and Didactics 9 or A+

Thursday, August 8, 2002

Pieter imitated Mr. Speaker at Rotary Club for NOT speaking into microphone

 
Pieter J.C. Vedder back row in green polo shirt, below P. 
Allen Barfoot is in front right. 

Thank you Allen (Allen Barfoot, president) for giving me a couple of minutes to demonstrate and explain my problem.

First, the demonstration; 'I am the speaker now...' (Turning head sideways, off the not functioning microphone). 

May I introduce myself; I am Mr. Soft spoken from the clear voice audio company and I like to talk about the importance of good communication...

Sorry for the interruption Mr. Speaker, I bet it is very interesting and important what you have to say but I have a problem, I can't hear you...

You see, Mr. Speaker, my ears (I have two of them) are over 70 years old and somewhat worn out; not as sharp anymore and I am convinced that we will have quite a number of that kind of ears in this group.

You also must realize Mr. Speaker that we are a poor club, we simply cannot afford a clip–on microphone e.g. or a better audio system in general.

Therefore Mr. Speaker, for the time being, could you please speak loud and clear into that perforated metal ball in front of you?

That will make these Rotary club meetings for me and a number of other Rotarians, more interesting and much more enjoyable.

Thank you very much Mr. Speaker!
Pieter's ears got damaged during his military service with heavy artillery–an American 155 mm Howitzer.
Pieter served from October 4, 1950 till February 1, 1952.
Due to Pieter being a natural leader he became a corporal, sergeant and unit commander.



Friday, March 29, 2002

Pieter's Presentation for Rotary Club: Experiences of a LEGAL immigrant


President Jeff, guests and fellow Rotarians, the title of the first part of today's program is: Experiences of a LEGAL immigrant.
Do we yet need to convince anyone that we are proud to be an American?
You better believe me; we both really are. It is easy to be an American if you've been born in this country. To become an American citizen however is much more difficult; at least if you do it the proper, that means, the legal way. 
I got my American citizenship on April 23 of 1993. The day after, Mariette was telling several friends that she'd slept for the first time in her life with an American...
Mariette became a U.S. citizen half a year later; in December of 1993 and, as I have said already, we both are mighty proud of it.
We are equally proud of our Dutch background, and I will give you a few reasons for that.
– The Dutch were the very first to recognize the new American Republic in 1776 when they saluted to the flag of the Andrew Doria from the Dutch Island of St. Eustatius (as depicted in this painting by Philips Melville).
– The Dutch have maintained the longest, un–interrupted friendly relationship with the U.S.
– The Netherlands is the only country, which paid back, in full, the Marshall plan money given to them after WWII.
– Although a small country, approx. ⅕ the size of Georgia, with twice the population, the Dutch are with 130 billion the third biggest foreign investor in the U.S. after the U.K. and Japan and the biggest foreign investor in the state of Georgia. This just for the records. Some of you may know the procedure for the naturalization process but for those of you who don't, I like to share some of our experiences. 
As often, Pieter got spelled wrongly... 
It all started when I, in 1983, accepted the job as Vice President Training & New Developments for Campbell Soup's mushroom division (at that time the largest mushroom producer in the U.S.) and designed a so–called Dutch technology farm for them, build in Dudley by a Dutch company and a second one in Hillsboro, Texas.
With the help of Campbell's legal department, we of course immediately applied for the green card. For that purpose, we first had to make a trip to the American Consulate in Rotterdam, The Netherlands, filling out a bunch of forms and showing all sorts of documents like birth certificate, passport, and they were especially eager to know if we'd ever been a member of a communist organization. Remember, that was in the time of Mr. Joseph McCarthy. 
For the first time we felt discriminated somewhat since none of these forms were in the Dutch language.
We also had to prove that we were strong and healthy and had to provide them with a set of x–rays showing that our lungs could handle the American air...
I'm not sure how often and how many fingerprints they took in all (show card!). 
Furthermore, we had to go to all the cities we ever lived in, over the years, that yielded three for us, and ask the authorities for a stamped document stating that we'd been good law–abiding citizens and never got engaged with law enforcement etc.
Campbell Soup had to proof to the INS that I was a high–level specialist in the field of modern mushroom production and that this very specialized knowledge was not available in the U.S. This way we got a so–called third preference status, which means they move you up in the pile of applications. Not only all our diplomas had to be translated by a certified translator but also, we had to show all the original documents (not copies) regarding our education etc., to a legal representative.
On August 29 of 1983, we came to Dublin via Atlanta, and yes fingerprints again, our green card still pending. That meant we were not able to work here, we were not officially employed yet by Campbell Soup, therefore not on the payroll and didn't receive any salary...
We didn't have a Social Security number and that meant we also were not able to buy a house. Again, keep in mind, I'm still talking about doing everything the proper, absolute legal way.
This situation sometimes created complications. I remember one instance when we bought our first groceries and tried to pay with my Visa card, issued by a Dutch bank. It didn't work, for whatever reason, it was the wrong one. So, I then wrote them a check from the Farmers & Merchants Bank (oh yes, they trusted us, even without a Social Security Number). The clerk asked if she could see my driver's license. Of course! So, I pulled out my International driver's license. She never had seen such a thing; it was the wrong one she said... you better give me your Social Security Number. Sorry, I don't have one yet. BIG problem. I got somewhat annoyed and told her perhaps she also might want to know my religion? Now, I can tell you that we are Roman Catholic and I bet that will be wrong again! 
After almost one year we both got our green card, then got our salary paid retro–active over one year and two weeks, could buy our house etc.
With every story I'm telling you, you have to put yourself in our shoes. Imagine that one of these days they put you in a small village, the size of Dublin in 1983, in e.g. the southern part of France. Of course, you studied some French but then you figure out that the locals over there speak French like e.g. Jeff Davis speaks English. Even studying the book from Uncle Remus didn't help us too much.
When we were moving into our first house in Brookwood, we got an envelope from the Dublin Welcome committee, with all sorts of coupons from free dry cleaning to a free dinner for two at restaurant Circle Y. Mariette suggested that we save that coupon for Friday evening in order that after a week of hard work we could have a special treat to look forward to.
Friday evening came and we dressed up, the European way, and we drove to town; expecting to find the restaurants in the city–center. We drove around and around, no Circle Y. Then we started asking and had people stare at us very suspicious and we got several different directions. When we finally figured it out, in the middle of nowhere, it was around 8:30 PM of August 1983 but we'd found it! Can you imagine how the people were looking at us? The catfish was good...!
We quickly learned that most people in Laurens County are nice and very helpful to newcomers like us. We still had a lot more to learn! Mariette figured out that a snapping turtle is for sure not a pet and she almost lost the tip of her finger when poking at a huge grandpa turtle...
We got an invitation from Griffin Lovett to go together to the Swampland Opera in Toomsboro. We both love classical music as well as opera, so this made us look forward to the event. When asking Griffin about the dress code he assured us that casual would be fine... To the opera?! Nevertheless we thoroughly enjoyed the country music and the gospel songs in the barn. At the dinner before, Griffin told them that we'd come all the way from The Netherlands—that got us a free dessert!
Now you can laugh about it but again, think about the small village in France...
Having a green card allows one to live and work in the U.S. as a resident alien but it still doesn't make you an American. We wanted to go it all the way; we e.g. liked to have the right to vote.
To apply for U.S. citizenship again is not such an easy process especially for us with all our traveling. You must be available for half a year, once applied for it. First of all, we had to prove that we lived in this country for at least 5 years. Although living and working in Italy, Indonesia and India, we always paid our U.S. taxes, social security premium etc. That has proven to be very helpful.
I can state that the people from the INS in Atlanta are for sure not the friendliest and most helpful. We also figured out that if you give a black person some authority, they would use it against you. Not referring to the customs officers at the Atlanta airport; we think that most of them are the friendliest in the world!
You also have to prepare for a kind of verbal test. To be ready for the notorious 100 random questions, we had to refresh our knowledge about American history, the government structure etc. I remember that my examinator, after three questions said: 'I better give up because I'm convinced that you know more about American history etc., then I do'. 
Again, some Americans love to talk about discrimination. Besides, of course, English, most of the INS material is available in Spanish as well but not in German, Dutch or Italian. The biggest shock for me however came when I was somewhat complaining to the INS official about the costs and all the paperwork involved. Somewhat cynical he told me: 'This is because you did it the wrong way!' Flabbergasted I reacted: 'I did what...?' 
'Yes', he replied, ' you should have taken a boat to Miami, telling them that you'd lost all your documents and just walk in...!' (With liberty and justice for all!)
Maybe because we had the wrong haircut or something like that, but we never clearly understood why the INS people were scrutinizing us the way they did and why some criminals and other questionable people can enter this country that easily and live here without the proper documents or on long expired visas.
With our experience we e.g. really never understood why senator Ted Kennedy sponsored the 1990 immigration law, which says that mere membership in a terrorist organization or advocacy of acts of terrorism should not exclude foreigners from receiving U.S. immigration visas. Can you imagine? The same INS that allowed more than half a million foreigners who should've been deported, to get lost within this country...
Quite often people ask us if we still have the Dutch nationality and a Dutch passport. In fact they are talking about dual citizenship. Despite what some people might tell you, in most cases, there's nothing like that, beside a few exceptions. Our adopted daughter Liz is such an exception. She is born in British Columbia and therefore has a Canadian birth certificate. Because of the adoption she automatically will have our nationality as well.
First of all, during the ceremony, when you are sworn in as an American citizen, you raise your hand, and you pledge the following oath of allegiance:
Some people will say: 'Oh, but that's just a formality'. Not so for us!
So far about the moral aspect and now the legal aspect. The very same time you're sworn in, you must swap the old green card for the new U.S. certificate. If we would try to renew our Dutch passport, issued from the Consulate General in Houston, Texas, we would have to send it in with the green card (which now you don't have anymore!). So legally that is the dead end at least with the Dutch government. 
Personally, we always ask those people; why would you like to have dual citizenship? If you like it here, then go all the way. If you don't then you should have one single citizenship but not the American! For both of us, Mariette and I, we love this country and we're proud to be an American!
To everybody who's asking us what our opinion is about the U.S. we make this statement: 'The U.S. is by far not the ideal society, but you will have a hard time to find a better one!'
We hoever never understood why they cut our Social Security by more than fifty percent because we worked for the Dutch government, although I have paid my full 40 units.
Therefore, next time we will lose all our paperwork and arrive by boat in Miami!
God bless America!!!

March 29, 2002


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Wednesday, July 12, 2000

Husband Pieter wrote about me: POET–PITBULL–PRODUCTIVE

 
The above is what Pieter wrote after reading my 17 letters to family and friends. He would then fold them into their envelope, seal it and put a stamp on for putting inside mailbox to be picked up, with the red flag raised.

Monday, July 4, 1994

Husband Pieter's 1994, 4th of July Speech

 About time for sharing this special speech by husband Pieter, delivered on the 4th of July at the Dublin stadion before fireworks.
If watching video click on CC Closed Caption!
Pieter has written several speeches in his life time and he spoke at The International Society for Mushroom Science (ISMS) Congress numerous times. 
Always in a foreign language though...
~
The 4th of July 1994

Thanks for the kind introduction; now you know almost all about the two of us. 
For the introduction of a speaker a typical question always is, what is exactly your title?
In a certain booklet we found that there is actually no prouder title than to be an American Citizen. 
Although the weather is not cooperating too well, today we have something really important to celebrate as you all know we celebrate Uncle Sam's 218th Birthday, the birth of this great nation.
In the introduction, you have heard that we are new Americans, although we came to this country already in 1983.
My wife's love–affair with the United States started in April of 1983; her very first visit to the New World.
Some Campbell Soup people taught her at that time some history by visiting Rockford (Grand Rapids), Michigan, where President Ford grew up. They thought maybe she was homesick and thus they brought her to Holland in Michigan. 
She was not homesick but just absorbing all she could about this fascinating New World. 
One of the highlights was the visit to Chestnut Street in Philadelphia; to the Independence Hall—the home of the Liberty Bell, a shrine of Patriotism for all Americans.
There we learned more about Life with a capital 'L' and also about Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. 
The next day we flew to Dublin, Georgia and there we fell deeper and deeper in love with the New World. 
So, in August of 1983, we came to live here.
This was Our Pursuit of Happiness.
Last year we got our American Citizenship and since then we can say: we are Dutch by birth and Americans by choice, and we are proud of both. 
There are a couple of reasons for that pride. Maybe you didn't know, but the Dutch, of any nation, have the longest uninterrupted friendly relationship with the U.S. and for sure we like to keep it that way.
It was on November 16 in 1776, that the Fort on the Dutch Island of St. Eustatius in the Caribbean returned the salute from the American warship Andrea Dorea, as it entered the harbor. 
 This was the first salute by a foreign power to the flag of the United States of America. 
As the history books say: this was a very courageous action by the Dutch, and it enhanced the diplomatic credibility of the United States of America. 
It also gave a strong boost to the moral of the revolutionary troops.
So, today it is 218 years ago that the U.S. has been founded.
In the Dutch tradition, Birthdays always are important events, often celebrated with an all–day open house, birthday gifts etc.
A good question, not only for us but for all immigrants could be: 'Why did you come to the U.S.?
What did we expect to find here what we eventually didn't have in the country where we lived before? 
Although a lot of things have changed since then, the answer will be more or less identical to what brought the founding fathers to this of the world over 200 years ago.
The most important reason for them was the freedom and the space to live in the broadest sense.
The freedom to believe in God in different ways; the freedom to have your own opinion, the opportunity to develop yourself up to the limits etc. 
On this Birthday we should never forget that the Founding Fathers, and after them numerous immigrants, have for sure not chosen the easiest way. They didn't find a paradise; they just found a place with almost unlimited opportunities, but they had to be explored. 
Very important also is that their Freedom was based on a STRONG MORAL AND PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.
That, in combination with hard work, made this country into what it is today; in our opinion the best country to live in.
We have a number of good reasons to make this statement.
As you perhaps know, or picked up from the introduction, for our job we traveled and still do, all over the world and lived in several countries.
We lived in Dublin, Georgia from 1983 through 1988 and after that in Italy and Indonesia.
We more and more discovered what a great country the U.S. is to live in; we got homesick and looked for every opportunity to return.
With O'Henry we can say, "You can't appreciate home 'till yu've left it... or old glory 'till you see it hanging on a broomstick on the shanty of a consul in a foreign town."
We think Americans in general don't realize how blessed they are, too many things we just take for granted. 
Especially the younger generation should realize that it hasn't been always this good, just travel the world and find out how spoiled in fact we are.
As the Founding Fathers long time ago, we've found our real happiness in this country. 
We often have to answer the question why we've chosen to live in America. 
We think we are able to give a reasonable answer because we can compare.
Our standard answer to that question is: The U.S. is for sure not paradise and not the ideal society because it is built up by some 250 million human beings. But traveling over the world, we can assure you that you will have a hard time to find a better place to live. Therefore, we have good reasons to be thankful and to celebrate the Birthday of this great nation. 
Like in the Dutch tradition, we should not come to a Birthday party with empty hands; one has to carry a gift.
What kind of a gift could we come up with for the Birthday of our country?
The most appropriate gift in our opinion would be that we promise to contribute our share in what the Founding Fathers once started.
They worked hard to develop this country, made it prosperous and a better place to live for everybody. They installed and maintained high moral values, based on a strong believe in God.
They've shown the world that they could handle their freedom.
Our forefathers didn't contribute frivolous gifts to this country.
So, let's celebrate this Birthday of our nation not only with a spectacular firework but let us wrap up a big box for Uncle Sam, containing:
A huge amount of humility, a lot of tolerance, respect for each other and patience, the most of integrity and compassion and a strong will to share freely with others.
Thank you Founding Fathers!
Happy Birthday Uncle Sam, we love this country.
May God bless this nation and all of us.

~

Happy 247th Independence Day!

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Friday, April 23, 1993

PIETER'S OATH OF ALLEGIANCE

 Finally, after so many years we went to Atlanta for the ceremony of PIETER'S OATH OF ALLEGIANCE
Friday, 23 April, was a special day. 
It was exactly 10 years ago that we first entered Dublin on Saturday, 23 April, 1983 on Campbell's private plane, a Learjet. Brother Piet Van den Munckhof's birthday...
This time we got up at 4:30 AM and drove to Atlanta at 5:30 AM to be in time at the Civic Centre. Everything went well, although around 7:30 AM it became very busy on the 10-lane Interstate through the city. It was morning–rush–hour in a city of 2.5 million, so you can expect something like this. 
But we were parked on time in the large parking lot diagonally opposite the Civic Centre. Then a short walk. It was windy and also cool. At 4:30 AM it was only 2°C or 35.6°F! There were hundreds of people walking towards the Civic Centre, so we weren't the only ones. The doors didn't open until 8:30 AM and people were spoken to, for telling them what and where to go. The visitors, such as family members, had to go upstairs and those who had a call from the Immigration Office had to pick up their certificate at the tables with the last three numbers of their green card. So if your U.S. green card ended in 103, for example, then you had to go in the line of 100–200.
There were 1,800 people gathered that morning, all of whom had to go through the official mill and then go in to take place downstairs. Of course, that took hours. At 11:00 AM, the room was almost filled and the judges began the ceremony. First, an introduction by the Deputy District Director of USINS Atlanta District (United States Immigration and Naturalization Service). Then the National Anthem was sung standing up and the welcome speech by yet another high–ranking person. Then a speech by William Porter 'Billy' Payne, President and CEO (Chief Executive Officer), Atlanta Committee for the Olympic Games.
He addressed the group, those 1,800 people gathered from as many as 77 countries!!! That's when the 1,800 candidates for U.S. Citizenship were officially sworn in by the District Director. Some final comments and the Pledge of Allegiance to the Flag. A great event that caused quite a stir... Many shed tears. The President of the Olympic Games Committee said in his speech that he had been to 75 countries and that people often asked what was so special about this country. He said, "The United States" is the only country in the world where they accept all the people of the whole world as emigrants.
That's why it works, the United States is in fact, a reflection of the total world population. Everyone lives and works together here in a country with enormous freedoms, enormous opportunities—the American Dream.
The Atlanta T.V. recorded the entire ceremony.
So as of Friday, April 23, Pieter J.C. Vedder is now an American citizen. Within a few months, Mariette A.M. Van den Munckhof-Vedder will also be sworn in. Here in America, you use your birth name first, before your spouse's. Which makes sense, because this is also the order in which you obtained your names.

Thursday, December 3, 1992

Lief vrouwke—Sweet lady


This is where Pieter stayed and wrote this letter...


Thursday, 3rd December 1992

Dear lady, 
It is possible that this letter arrives at the same time as me, but it is still worth trying; I think it would be nice for you to hear something from Bombay. (I changed my pen for a moment, because this one from the hotel rattled in its holder!). I've generally traveled well; from Amsterdam I had seat 9B so you know where I was, first row behind Royal class. We got no present, to speak with Dora, but we also have enough bags and toothpaste etc., I had already bought at Schiphol. The Ibis Hotel at Schiphol is a typical KLM place to stay; neat but nothing special. 
No shampoo or anything like that, but good breakfast included (also well doable for $ 76.00). I left the leather jacket at Schiphol; it is not worn here in India anyway and then it only is a burden. The flight for Papa wasn't too bad for me; with a 10% discount for the elderly, for fl 1,074. Hopefully everyone stays healthy etc. so that he can really benefit from it for a month, I will find some work for him so he doesn't have to get bored. As mentioned, the flight to Mumbai went smoothly, we arrived on time, i.e. at about 23:30h. It took a long time before the red–white–blue banded suitcase finally appeared. 
Customs didn't even look at me and there was someone from Pond's with a sign in his hand for Dr. Veddar. This hotel is quintessentially Indian; fancy if you don't look too sharply, that is. From what I saw last night from the airport to the hotel, it is at least as bad, if not worse than in the other cities. What poverty and rubbish along the road. We cannot realize enough how privileged we are. Most people who don't get any further than Horst or Dublin, for example, don't know what they're talking about, so you can't really blame them. 
It is now 7:30 am, I woke up early, probably as a result of the time difference. The breakfast was typical continental but our problem is definitely not that we get too little, especially after such a flight. I'm writing right now with a cup of coffee next to me, so what more could a person want. I still have some time to kill; they come to pick me up at 9:30 am for the 11:00 am flight to Coimbatore, where we might arrive about 1–1.5 hours later. This way of traveling, i.e. with enough time between flights (sounds like mushroom language) is much less stressful. It's strange not to have you with me; we were so used to that by now.  
I hope for both of us that time alone will not be too long for us. Of course, a little dispensing is allowed from time to time, then you will appreciate being together so much better later on. I'm looking forward to a few quiet weeks together and I hope Marion won't disturb this idea; at least I will do everything in my power to prevent that. Maybe that's why it would have been better to call them yesterday, then I might have heard something already, but I thought, Marion isn't here anyway and to just listen to Dora's ramblings for a few guilders didn't really appeal to me. I'll see them next Sunday when I'm alive and well. I assume you've been busy sewing and traveling to Macon and Atlanta (with Somai among others). Hopefully the weather was nice so you could enjoy the garden, including birds, squirrels etc.
Hopefully you'll have a great Rotary Club Lady's night too; I'm curious to see who will take care of you. I will think of you often sweetheart, of everything in this world you mean the most to me, but you already knew that! Lots of love and greetings from Mumbai and in the not too distant future you will hear from me again. 
Goodbye darling of mine,
Your Pieter xxx


Read about the dangerous adventure here: Husband Pieter's DANGEROUS Trip back from India...