Monday, July 4, 2011

{4th of July Speech given by my husband Pieter}

Worthwhile sharing this speech by my husband Pieter, given to the people of Laurens County, prior to the fireworks.


The 4th of July 1994


The United States and Georgia State Flag on July 4th 2002
Those weeping ilex trees are no more...
Thanks for the kind introduction; now you know almost all about the two of us. For the introduction of a speaker a typical question always is, what is exactly your title? In a certain booklet we found that there actually is no prouder title then to be an American citizen. Although the weather is not cooperating too well, today we have something really important to celebrate as you all know, we celebrate Uncle Sam's 218th Birthday; the birth of this great nation.
In the introduction you have heard that we are new Americans, although we came to this country already in '83. My wife's love affair with the U.S.A. started in April of '83; her very first visit to the New World. Some Campbell Soup people taught her at that time some history by visiting Rockford, MI, where president Ford grew up. They thought maybe she was homesick and thus they brought her to Holland in MI.
Holland Michigan on the shore of Lake Michigan
She was not homesick but just absorbing all she could about this fascinating new world. One of the highlights was the visit to Chestnut Street in Philadelphia; to the Independence Hall; the home of the Liberty Bell, a shrine of patriotism for all Americans. There we learned more about Life with a capital L and also about Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.
Pieter with  our foster-daughter Anita, in 2004 in front of the Liberty Bell
View from the Hershey hotel in Philadelphia where we stayed

  The next day we flew to Dublin, GA and there we fell deeper and deeper in love with the New World.
From Camden, New Jersey we flew on the Learjet from Campbell Soup to Dublin, Georgia on Saturday, April 23 of 1983
Wearing my red Campbell jacket...


So in August of '83 we came to live here. This was our pursuit of Happiness. Last year (1993) we got our American citizenship and since then we can say: we are Dutch by birth and American by choice and we are proud of both. There are a couple of reasons for that pride. Maybe you didn't know but the Dutch, of any nation, have the longest uninterrupted friendly relationship with the U.S.A. and for sure we like to keep it that way. It was on Nov. 16 in 1776 that the ford on the Dutch island of St. Eustatius in the Caribbean returned the salute from the American warship Andrea Dorea, as it entered the harbour. This was the first salute by a foreign power to the flag of the U.S.A. of America. As the history books say: this was a very courageous action by the Dutch and it enhanced the diplomatic credibility of the U.S.A. It also gave a strong boost to the moral of the revolutionary troops. So, today it is 218 years ago that the U.S.A. has been founded. In the Dutch tradition, Birthdays always are important events, often celebrated with an all day open house, birthday gifts etc. A good question, not only for us but for all immigrants could be: why did you come to the U.S.A? What did we expect to find here what we eventually didn't have in the country where we lived before? Although a lot of things have changed since then, the answer will be more or less identical to what brought the founding fathers to this part of the world over 200 years ago. The most important reason for them was the freedom and the space to live in the broadest sense. The freedom to believe in God in different ways; the freedom to have your own opinion, the opportunity to develop yourself up to the limits etc. On this Birthday we should never forget that the founding fathers and after them numerous immigrants have for sure not chosen the easiest way. They didn't find a paradise; they just found a place with almost unlimited opportunities but they had to be explored. Very important also is that their freedom was based on a strong moral and on personal responsibility. That, in combination with hard work, made this country into what it is today; in our opinion the best country to live in. We have a number of good reasons to make this statement. As you perhaps know, or picked up from the introduction, for our job we traveled, and still do, all over the world and lived in several countries We lived in Dublin from '83 through '88 and after that in Italy and Indonesia. We more and more discovered what a great country the U.S.A. is to live in; we got homesick and looked for every opportunity to return. With O'Henry contribute our share in what the founding fathers once started. They worked hard to develop this country, made it prosperous and a better place to live. They installed and maintained high moral values, based on a strong believe in God. They've shown the world that they could handle their freedom. Our forefathers didn't contribute frivolous gifts to this country. So, let's celebrate this Birthday of our nation not only with a spectacular firework but let's wrap up a big box for Uncle Sam, containing: A huge amount of humility, a lot of tolerance, respect for each other and patience, the most of integrity and compassion and a strong will to share freely with others.
Thank you  Founding Fathers.
Happy Birthday Uncle Sam; we love this country. May God bless this nation and all of us.
Pieter J.C. Vedder


Also for today, Happy 235th Birthday United States of America!!!


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Sunday, January 10, 2010

M'n lieve, zieke Maaike—My dear, sick Maaike


{Post # 148 and my blog is 1 year old today!} | about me being in the hospital almost totally paralyzed with high fever that they couldn't knock down...

January 10, 2010

My dear, sick Maaike,
Was here, but of course you were in an examination room. Hopefully they will find something so that the treatment can begin. 
Did bring you some juice and tropical fruit.
Who brought you that cyclamen?
Love, you klutz, but loving P

Will come back this afternoon. 

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Lieve Lieverd – LL—Dear Sweetheart – LL

Dublin, 31 mei 2009

Lieve lieverd,

Ja, ja dit brengt lieve herinneringen terug van ons prille begin toen je in de middagpauze dit speelde op het orgel, door de telefoon...
Zoals gisteren dat was een leuke dag. Je bent zo’n innemend en intellectueel mens met een rijke geest. Dát is mede de reden waarom ik verliefd werd op mijn baas.
De laatste tijd ga je daar vaak aan voorbij door je enkel lichamelijk uit te putten door hárd werk. Dat je daarbij de ander die je juist bemind om je geestelijke rijkdom volledig uitschakeld besef je mogelijk niet.
De tijd raast door en hóeveel mooie avonden, na een dag van zonneschijn, voorafgegaan door hárd werk, hebben we nog om even een poosje elkaars geest te koesteren bij een muziekje en een drankje en een nabeschouwing van de dag.
Er is méér dan alleen maar zware dingen doen en daardoor nauwelijks te léven. De domme krachtpatserij kan nog betaald worden om door een ander te laten doen en laten we de kostbare en mooie, tedere momenten inlijsten voor elkaar.
May 5, 2009 Pieter with Goddaughter Myriam

Myriam lijkt in dat opzicht véél op haar peetoom en mogelijk op haar paternal oma. Ze dramt ook ontzettend door met véél werk verzetten en dan valt ze letterlijk ’s avonds om. Dat bedoelt Toine dan ook van hij zou haar in zijn hart willen opsluiten... Hij is ook meer filosoof en heeft behoefte aan een moment van stilstaan en van koesteren en het vasthouden van geluk. Ècht geluk en dat is zeldzaam.
Dus neem een tukkie ’s middags en rust uit zodat de geest nog niet naar bed wil samen met Sacha de poes maar met Mariet samen voldaan naar bed. Een geest moet ook onderhouden worden; een lichaam raakt uitgeput en moet gevoed worden en tot rust komen. Ook een geest moet gevoed... Wie weet moeten we nog een lánge ruk alleen en daarom moeten we het nú aanvullen en rijkelijk voeden en délen.
Een innige knuf van je 50 kilo meiske dat nog steeds zielsveel van je houdt al word je de laatste jaren wat harder (om jezelf te rechtvaardigen dat je nog best kúnt...). Door dat te doen rem je je geestes–uitlaatklep af en doe je je liefste tekort.
Dus niet stoer met een boek te ruste gaan om stiekum te rusten. Rust eerder en probeer een uurtje fit te zijn; er te zijn voor de ander. Niet altijd gauw gauw dit en dat nog. Altijd weg rennen, altijd jakkeren. Dat gaat zo niet door. Neem de tijd om af en toe stil te staan en samen te zijn. Een ziel die met een ander deelt reikt dan ook graag het omhulsel aan en relaxed in extase. Béter dan relaxen met een boek en doodop in bed liggen uit te blazen... met de volgende dag dezelfde rituelen van presteren met je lijf ten koste van je geest.
Op naar de volgende twintig jaartjes en wel samen delen!
LL
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Pieter playing Get Into the Dream Boat of Love by Heinz Dietz and Kurz Felz 1955 | what Pieter played on his organ during lunch time, through the phone...
 Heinz Dietz and Kurz Felz 1955

Dublin, May 31, 2009
Dear sweetheart,

Yes, yes, this brings back sweet memories of our very beginning when you played this on the organ during the lunch break, through the phone...
Like yesterday, that was a nice day. You are such an engaging and intellectual person with a rich mind. That's part of the reason why I fell in love with my boss.
Lately, you often ignore that, by only physically exhausting yourself from hard work. You may not realize that in doing so, you completely eliminate the other person, who loves you for your spiritual richness.
 Time flies by and how many beautiful evenings, after a day of sunshine, preceded by our work, we still have left to cherish each other's minds for a while with music and a drink and a reflection of the day.
There is more than just doing heavy things and therefore hardly living. The stupid power driver can still be paid for, to be done by someone else, and let's frame the precious and beautiful, tender moments for each other. 

In that respect, Myriam looks a lot like her Godfather and possibly her paternal grandmother. She also pushes on with a lot of work and then she literally falls over in the evening. That's what Toine means with: he would like to lock her up in his heart... He is also more of a philosopher and needs a moment of standing still and of cherishing and holding on to happiness. Real happiness—and that is rare. 
So take a nap in the afternoon and rest, so that the mind does not want to go to bed together with Sacha the cat but goes satisfied to bed with Mariet. A mind must also be maintained; a body becomes exhausted and needs to be nourished and rested. A spirit also needs to be fed... Who knows, maybe we'll have to do a long haul alone and that's why we have to replenish it now and feed and share it richly.
A heartfelt hug of your 50 kilo (110 lbs) girl who still loves you dearly, even though you have been getting a little tougher in recent years (to justify yourself that you can still do well...). By doing so, you slow down your mental outlet and shortchange your dearest.
So don't go to rest with a book to secretly rest. Rest earlier and try to be fit for an hour; to be there for the other. Not always quickly, this and that. Always running away, always rushing. This cannot continue. Take the time to stop and be together from time to time. A soul that shares with another, likes to reach out to the shell and relax in ecstasy. Better than relaxing with a book and lying in bed to take a breather... With the next day the same rituals of performing with your body at the expense of your mind.
Here's to the next twenty years and sharing together!
LL
Upon knowing each other 40 years, we had brunch at the Page House with friends...
July 12, 2009
 

September 4, 2010 the day after Pieter's quadruple bypass + stent in neck
Since then, Pieter started taking naps...

Fady Wanna, MD, MBA was the Cardio–Thoracic surgeon that saved Pieter's life by doing a successful quadruple bypass + stent in his neck.

No wonder that on May 6, 2017 he received this Most Outstanding Academic Accomplishment from Emory University



Monday, January 2, 2006

Opgave voor ons beiden: liefde en respect!—Task for both of us: love and respect!

January 2, 2006

In the human sciences (psychology), one of the main rules for resolving a dispute is suggested to be the following:
When someone who means something to you starts to tell you all kinds of weaknesses, or reproach you, a human reaction is to hold up the mirror to the other party in order to demonstrate his/her weaknesses (which of course are also there). This usually won't solve anything but the positions only harden. 
So here are a few rules: 
1) I still love you dearly.
2) I will therefore do my best to give up my weaknesses, without asking for anything in return.
3) I'm by no means the boss!
4) Task for both of us: love and respect!
Your Pieter
Monday, January 02, 2006 Both of us write a note to each other, vowing to do our best for the coming year!
Pieter on January 8, 2006 with our Spooky boy in front of Infiniti

Pieter's grades for Psychology, Pedagogy and Didactics 9 or A+

Thursday, August 8, 2002

Pieter imitated Mr. Speaker at Rotary Club for NOT speaking into microphone

 
Pieter J.C. Vedder back row in green polo shirt, below P. 
Allen Barfoot is in front right. 

Thank you Allen (Allen Barfoot, president) for giving me a couple of minutes to demonstrate and explain my problem.

First, the demonstration; 'I am the speaker now...' (Turning head sideways, off the not functioning microphone). 

May I introduce myself; I am Mr. Soft spoken from the clear voice audio company and I like to talk about the importance of good communication...

Sorry for the interruption Mr. Speaker, I bet it is very interesting and important what you have to say but I have a problem, I can't hear you...

You see, Mr. Speaker, my ears (I have two of them) are over 70 years old and somewhat worn out; not as sharp anymore and I am convinced that we will have quite a number of that kind of ears in this group.

You also must realize Mr. Speaker that we are a poor club, we simply cannot afford a clip–on microphone e.g. or a better audio system in general.

Therefore Mr. Speaker, for the time being, could you please speak loud and clear into that perforated metal ball in front of you?

That will make these Rotary club meetings for me and a number of other Rotarians, more interesting and much more enjoyable.

Thank you very much Mr. Speaker!
Pieter's ears got damaged during his military service with heavy artillery–an American 155 mm Howitzer.
Pieter served from October 4, 1950 till February 1, 1952.
Due to Pieter being a natural leader he became a corporal, sergeant and unit commander.



Friday, March 29, 2002

Pieter's Presentation for Rotary Club: Experiences of a LEGAL immigrant


President Jeff, guests and fellow Rotarians, the title of the first part of today's program is: Experiences of a LEGAL immigrant.
Do we yet need to convince anyone that we are proud to be an American?
You better believe me; we both really are. It is easy to be an American if you've been born in this country. To become an American citizen however is much more difficult; at least if you do it the proper, that means, the legal way. 
I got my American citizenship on April 23 of 1993. The day after, Mariette was telling several friends that she'd slept for the first time in her life with an American...
Mariette became a U.S. citizen half a year later; in December of 1993 and, as I have said already, we both are mighty proud of it.
We are equally proud of our Dutch background, and I will give you a few reasons for that.
– The Dutch were the very first to recognize the new American Republic in 1776 when they saluted to the flag of the Andrew Doria from the Dutch Island of St. Eustatius (as depicted in this painting by Philips Melville).
– The Dutch have maintained the longest, un–interrupted friendly relationship with the U.S.
– The Netherlands is the only country, which paid back, in full, the Marshall plan money given to them after WWII.
– Although a small country, approx. ⅕ the size of Georgia, with twice the population, the Dutch are with 130 billion the third biggest foreign investor in the U.S. after the U.K. and Japan and the biggest foreign investor in the state of Georgia. This just for the records. Some of you may know the procedure for the naturalization process but for those of you who don't, I like to share some of our experiences. 
As often, Pieter got spelled wrongly... 
It all started when I, in 1983, accepted the job as Vice President Training & New Developments for Campbell Soup's mushroom division (at that time the largest mushroom producer in the U.S.) and designed a so–called Dutch technology farm for them, build in Dudley by a Dutch company and a second one in Hillsboro, Texas.
With the help of Campbell's legal department, we of course immediately applied for the green card. For that purpose, we first had to make a trip to the American Consulate in Rotterdam, The Netherlands, filling out a bunch of forms and showing all sorts of documents like birth certificate, passport, and they were especially eager to know if we'd ever been a member of a communist organization. Remember, that was in the time of Mr. Joseph McCarthy. 
For the first time we felt discriminated somewhat since none of these forms were in the Dutch language.
We also had to prove that we were strong and healthy and had to provide them with a set of x–rays showing that our lungs could handle the American air...
I'm not sure how often and how many fingerprints they took in all (show card!). 
Furthermore, we had to go to all the cities we ever lived in, over the years, that yielded three for us, and ask the authorities for a stamped document stating that we'd been good law–abiding citizens and never got engaged with law enforcement etc.
Campbell Soup had to proof to the INS that I was a high–level specialist in the field of modern mushroom production and that this very specialized knowledge was not available in the U.S. This way we got a so–called third preference status, which means they move you up in the pile of applications. Not only all our diplomas had to be translated by a certified translator but also, we had to show all the original documents (not copies) regarding our education etc., to a legal representative.
On August 29 of 1983, we came to Dublin via Atlanta, and yes fingerprints again, our green card still pending. That meant we were not able to work here, we were not officially employed yet by Campbell Soup, therefore not on the payroll and didn't receive any salary...
We didn't have a Social Security number and that meant we also were not able to buy a house. Again, keep in mind, I'm still talking about doing everything the proper, absolute legal way.
This situation sometimes created complications. I remember one instance when we bought our first groceries and tried to pay with my Visa card, issued by a Dutch bank. It didn't work, for whatever reason, it was the wrong one. So, I then wrote them a check from the Farmers & Merchants Bank (oh yes, they trusted us, even without a Social Security Number). The clerk asked if she could see my driver's license. Of course! So, I pulled out my International driver's license. She never had seen such a thing; it was the wrong one she said... you better give me your Social Security Number. Sorry, I don't have one yet. BIG problem. I got somewhat annoyed and told her perhaps she also might want to know my religion? Now, I can tell you that we are Roman Catholic and I bet that will be wrong again! 
After almost one year we both got our green card, then got our salary paid retro–active over one year and two weeks, could buy our house etc.
With every story I'm telling you, you have to put yourself in our shoes. Imagine that one of these days they put you in a small village, the size of Dublin in 1983, in e.g. the southern part of France. Of course, you studied some French but then you figure out that the locals over there speak French like e.g. Jeff Davis speaks English. Even studying the book from Uncle Remus didn't help us too much.
When we were moving into our first house in Brookwood, we got an envelope from the Dublin Welcome committee, with all sorts of coupons from free dry cleaning to a free dinner for two at restaurant Circle Y. Mariette suggested that we save that coupon for Friday evening in order that after a week of hard work we could have a special treat to look forward to.
Friday evening came and we dressed up, the European way, and we drove to town; expecting to find the restaurants in the city–center. We drove around and around, no Circle Y. Then we started asking and had people stare at us very suspicious and we got several different directions. When we finally figured it out, in the middle of nowhere, it was around 8:30 PM of August 1983 but we'd found it! Can you imagine how the people were looking at us? The catfish was good...!
We quickly learned that most people in Laurens County are nice and very helpful to newcomers like us. We still had a lot more to learn! Mariette figured out that a snapping turtle is for sure not a pet and she almost lost the tip of her finger when poking at a huge grandpa turtle...
We got an invitation from Griffin Lovett to go together to the Swampland Opera in Toomsboro. We both love classical music as well as opera, so this made us look forward to the event. When asking Griffin about the dress code he assured us that casual would be fine... To the opera?! Nevertheless we thoroughly enjoyed the country music and the gospel songs in the barn. At the dinner before, Griffin told them that we'd come all the way from The Netherlands—that got us a free dessert!
Now you can laugh about it but again, think about the small village in France...
Having a green card allows one to live and work in the U.S. as a resident alien but it still doesn't make you an American. We wanted to go it all the way; we e.g. liked to have the right to vote.
To apply for U.S. citizenship again is not such an easy process especially for us with all our traveling. You must be available for half a year, once applied for it. First of all, we had to prove that we lived in this country for at least 5 years. Although living and working in Italy, Indonesia and India, we always paid our U.S. taxes, social security premium etc. That has proven to be very helpful.
I can state that the people from the INS in Atlanta are for sure not the friendliest and most helpful. We also figured out that if you give a black person some authority, they would use it against you. Not referring to the customs officers at the Atlanta airport; we think that most of them are the friendliest in the world!
You also have to prepare for a kind of verbal test. To be ready for the notorious 100 random questions, we had to refresh our knowledge about American history, the government structure etc. I remember that my examinator, after three questions said: 'I better give up because I'm convinced that you know more about American history etc., then I do'. 
Again, some Americans love to talk about discrimination. Besides, of course, English, most of the INS material is available in Spanish as well but not in German, Dutch or Italian. The biggest shock for me however came when I was somewhat complaining to the INS official about the costs and all the paperwork involved. Somewhat cynical he told me: 'This is because you did it the wrong way!' Flabbergasted I reacted: 'I did what...?' 
'Yes', he replied, ' you should have taken a boat to Miami, telling them that you'd lost all your documents and just walk in...!' (With liberty and justice for all!)
Maybe because we had the wrong haircut or something like that, but we never clearly understood why the INS people were scrutinizing us the way they did and why some criminals and other questionable people can enter this country that easily and live here without the proper documents or on long expired visas.
With our experience we e.g. really never understood why senator Ted Kennedy sponsored the 1990 immigration law, which says that mere membership in a terrorist organization or advocacy of acts of terrorism should not exclude foreigners from receiving U.S. immigration visas. Can you imagine? The same INS that allowed more than half a million foreigners who should've been deported, to get lost within this country...
Quite often people ask us if we still have the Dutch nationality and a Dutch passport. In fact they are talking about dual citizenship. Despite what some people might tell you, in most cases, there's nothing like that, beside a few exceptions. Our adopted daughter Liz is such an exception. She is born in British Columbia and therefore has a Canadian birth certificate. Because of the adoption she automatically will have our nationality as well.
First of all, during the ceremony, when you are sworn in as an American citizen, you raise your hand, and you pledge the following oath of allegiance:
Some people will say: 'Oh, but that's just a formality'. Not so for us!
So far about the moral aspect and now the legal aspect. The very same time you're sworn in, you must swap the old green card for the new U.S. certificate. If we would try to renew our Dutch passport, issued from the Consulate General in Houston, Texas, we would have to send it in with the green card (which now you don't have anymore!). So legally that is the dead end at least with the Dutch government. 
Personally, we always ask those people; why would you like to have dual citizenship? If you like it here, then go all the way. If you don't then you should have one single citizenship but not the American! For both of us, Mariette and I, we love this country and we're proud to be an American!
To everybody who's asking us what our opinion is about the U.S. we make this statement: 'The U.S. is by far not the ideal society, but you will have a hard time to find a better one!'
We hoever never understood why they cut our Social Security by more than fifty percent because we worked for the Dutch government, although I have paid my full 40 units.
Therefore, next time we will lose all our paperwork and arrive by boat in Miami!
God bless America!!!

March 29, 2002


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Wednesday, July 12, 2000

Husband Pieter wrote about me: POET–PITBULL–PRODUCTIVE

 
The above is what Pieter wrote after reading my 17 letters to family and friends. He would then fold them into their envelope, seal it and put a stamp on for putting inside mailbox to be picked up, with the red flag raised.